Sometimes I am my very best self. I wake up early, I make smoothies, I get all my work done with a skip in my step and I even manage to do a bit of exercise (albeit a run around the block before I pass out onto a hedge). I call my mum, I cook dinner from scratch and I am generally in a “let’s get shit done!” kind of mood.
There are some days though where all I feel like doing is curling up under a duvet with three seasons of Bob’s Burgers. I don’t feel like talking to anyone and all I want to do is turn off my phone and eat enormous bowls of cheesy pasta in the comforts of my own bed. This is not a hugely regular occurrence but it does happen, and sometimes there is absolutely no reason why. I have struggled with this for years. It’s an antagonising feeling, I enjoy being proactive, I am an ardent worker and generally a pretty active person. Being lazy is not my thing and I usually hate wasting a day or not leaving the house.
In recent years though I have realised that sometimes you’ve just got to listen to your body. It’s okay to just want to curl up with your dog and not answer the phone to anyone for a day. Some of the best minds in history have a regular needed a day off. Virginia Wolf used pretty much have a nervous breakdown every time she submitted a piece of work to her publishers. And you know what? It might not always be a duvet day that helps you recharge your battery. It might be switching off all social media, it might be swimming naked in the sea, wearing pyjamas solidly for the next three days or cleaning the house (not my idea of a day off but one of my good friends swears by it for when she has had a stressful day). I recently read an article in The Pool in which the author would swing an axe at an old tree whenever she was needing to destress. What I am trying to say is do what you need to do make yourself feel better. To make yourself feel a little more you again. Sometimes you need a day under the duvet with a box set of Friends and that is okay.
Let’s be unapologetically a little kinder to ourselves.